Been doing a lot of thinking over the past few days, and most of it is just stuff that I've been constantly rehashing in my head. But one of the most important things - which, unfortunately, has failed to sink in - is this: before we judge others, we have to take a hard look at ourselves. And quit whining.
I always wonder why people are so quick to get pissed off with another person's actions, and complain that they wouldn't have done such a thing themselves. One example I've been mulling over recently is hearing one colleague complain about another. Colleague A was angry that Colleague B did things in her own way, and A was saying that if it were her, she would have done it another way, etc etc. I got tired and weary just listening to it all.
It's not that I don't like to listen to people. I do. It's just that when the misery that plagues someone is self-inflicted, it's hard to feel bad for them. Then again, it's so easy to judge, right? I've been guilty of the same thing myself.
I remember hearing another colleague talk about this guy she is involved with, and I was urging her to cease all contact and she was explaining how hard it was for her. I thought it was just a matter of will, but apparently not.
I realised this when someone from the not-so-recent (and still freshly hurting) past turned up, and all those old feelings flooded back. It's not so easy when you're in the hot seat. And all you want is someone who understands you. And listens without judgement.
Maybe THAT should be my resolution for 2008.
